Hey guys ya ever heard that ole saying learn stuff from your elders well im 13 so im pretty young and most of you are at least 3 years older than me so I just wanted to know got any conversation starters cause theres this girl im gonnna be alone with tommorow whos soooo pretty but I dont know what ill talk about to her cause shes a girl im sure everyone has this problem sometime in their life any advice on what to do?(nothing about skateboarding or sex...)

hmm, maybe get to know her, like music or something you can both relate to

dont plan on something to talk about, make it up as you go.
it always works.
for me atleast.
and flirt too.
but not too much.

I wouldn't even consider talking about sex because she wouldn't be going anywhere except away from you. Haha. And just get talking to her. Have you talked to her in the past? If so then it will be more easy going. Find out how she is so you don't blow it by acting like an idiot. I usually find it easier to get a conversation started up when there is someone there like her friend or yours.

Can you go further in detail on the flirt thing?(im not to good at it like how much like just give me an example of how you would flirt so I can get the idea think about it and then steal it)

O and rock adio its just gonna be us two all alone for 2 hours....

dont plan on something to talk about, make it up as you go.
it always works.
for me atleast.
and flirt too.
but not too much.
Exactly. I just say whatever pops in my mind when I'm there. I am a very funny guy (class clown of my grade) so I usually just be funny, always works.

Hey guys ya ever heard that ole saying learn stuff from your elders well im 13 so im pretty young and most of you are at least 3 years older than me so I just wanted to know got any conversation starters cause theres this girl im gonnna be alone with tommorow whos soooo pretty but I dont know what ill talk about to her cause shes a girl im sure everyone has this problem sometime in their life any advice on what to do?(nothing about skateboarding or sex...)
Try 13 :p...

Anyways, don't think about it too hard man. If there was one thing I learned now, and go back THEN with is ''girls are just as nervous talking to guys (if not more in some cases) and the ''anxiety'' you feel is common. You just need to look at her as ''a friend'' first. If you go into this ''conversation'' analyzing everything your going to say, your definitly going to be a blubbering mess...SO, I would start off with something YOU like, well say ''Music''. You ask her what kind of music she likes, and whats her favorite band/singer. THEN *THIS IS IMPORTANT*, you LISTEN to her answer. You do not interupt or then go on about you, you just let HER talk, which will automatically break the ice for you. Then after she's finished, hopefully you like or even KNOW something about the band/singer and you have a short convo about that to start. If that works out, your in, and can freely talk about whatever you want. Maybe ask her if she enjoys sports, or reading? Move on to family and pets and my man, you will be in a full fledge 30 minute convo easy. Don't be intimidated, she is just another person like me and you. It will be tough, the road will be bumping, but by golly, you shall strap your boots up, and get it done....One last thing, make sure your socks and shoes are CLEAN! Trust me, girls like a guy with CLEAN, non-dirty shoes. (This has been one of the first things they look at besides your rear, I know, i've been told I have nice both :))
Good luck

Can you go further in detail on the flirt thing?(im not to good at it like how much like just give me an example of how you would flirt so I can get the idea think about it and then steal it)
I wouldn't really jump in starting to flirt. She will pick up on it fast and try to ignore you.

Ya but like I said were gonna be all alone in a class for 2 hours hard to be funny with that sort of setting...

Pathtek4 thats real real good advice dude but I know nothing outside punk rock such as Green Day and shes a girl so if anyone could suggest somethin similar to music that I could start a conversation with?

Try 13 :p...

Anyways, don't think about it too hard man. If there was one thing I learned now, and go back THEN with is ''girls are just as nervous talking to guys (if not more in some cases) and the ''anxiety'' you feel is common. You just need to look at her as ''a friend'' first. If you go into this ''conversation'' analyzing everything your going to say, your definitly going to be a blubbering mess...SO, I would start off with something YOU like, well say ''Music''. You ask her what kind of music she likes, and whats her favorite band/singer. THEN *THIS IS IMPORTANT*, you LISTEN to her answer. You do not interupt or then go on about you, you just let HER talk, which will automatically break the ice for you. Then after she's finished, hopefully you like or even KNOW something about the band/singer and you have a short convo about that to start. If that works out, your in, and can freely talk about whatever you want. Maybe ask her if she enjoys sports, or reading? Move on to family and pets and my man, you will be in a full fledge 30 minute convo easy. Don't be intimidated, she is just another person like me and you. It will be tough, the road will be bumping, but by golly, you shall strap your boots up, and get it done....One last thing, make sure your socks and shoes are CLEAN! Trust me, girls like a guy with CLEAN, non-dirty shoes. (This has been one of the first things they look at besides your rear, I know, i've been told I have nice both :))
Good luck
Yeah thats pretty much what I do, Ask her questions and find something in common and build up on that.

Yeah thats pretty much what I do, Ask her questions and find something in common and build up on that.
You don't really need to quote someone just to say that's what I would do.

eye contact, smile, laugh, listen, talk.

Green day isn't punk rock.

But if you want to be able to relate to music that a 13 year old girl or a preppy girl might listen to, I think I might know some artists that you can look up on. Gwen Stefani, Jibbs, Nelly Furtado, Fergie, Chris Brown, Jibbs, Dem Franchise Boyz.. Do you have any idea what kind of music she likes?

Once you get comfortable with her and she with you(No shyness) let her do all the talking. From my experience with these species all they want to do is talk. Try to lighten the mood, make it seems as she's just "there" for a bit, she's not on your mind and gradually engage her into conversation. Once you found something start asking questions. Just about every time she takes in a breath and gradually slows down try adding something that's semi relivent but not really, just to add/continue the conversation..

The worst thing you can do is talk about sex. At least if you're serious about her and you don't know her very well. Try to get a loose, light laughing conversation going on. If you get that you'll just have to sit back and try to listen..

Edit: A lot of people have given great advice, Just loosely follow what most people say and relax. If you're tense you sweat, If you sweat and she sees them shmelly pitty marks.. Well, not good. ;P
It's also quite obvious when you're nerves, I can tell in a second when one of my friends get shaky around a person..

Ya but like I said were gonna be all alone in a class for 2 hours hard to be funny with that sort of setting...

Pathtek4 thats real real good advice dude but I know nothing outside punk rock such as Green Day and shes a girl so if anyone could suggest somethin similar to music that I could start a conversation with?

Well, it doesnt have to be music man...Ask her if she seen a movie recently, then if you haven't, you ask her what's it about (not if its good or bad....yet). The key here is Shawn, that you want to keep the convo focused on HER, UNTIL she starts to make it a little about you.
This is going to show her 2 things, 1, that you arnt some egotistical S.O.B. that only wants to hear HIMSELF speak, and 2, that you are a good listener...Girls like that, you know why??? BECAUSE, if you prove your a good listener, your going to be able to end the conversation with a ''hey, it was nice talking to you, can I call you sometime so we can talk again?'' Sneaky?? You bet it is, and you'll be walking out of your class, with 2 things:
A Smile and A Phone Number :)..Go you, you stallion :)

Alot of girls I know are into Green DAy and FOB and stuff like that, so you should bne in the clear

One last thing, make sure your socks and shoes are CLEAN! Trust me, girls like a guy with CLEAN, non-dirty shoes. (This has been one of the first things they look at besides your rear, I know, i've been told I have nice both :))
Good luck

Haha, yes, chicks never dig the shoes I skate in. Even if I've got a different lace from the other they notice, espically when they're torn up and all tied in different places, ha. Now, I've always got a nice pair of Es waiting to impress that don't get skated in.

Haha, yes, chicks never dig the shoes I skate in. Even if I've got a different lace from the other they notice, espically when they're torn up and all tied in different places, ha. Now, I've always got a nice pair of Es waiting to impress that don't get skated in.

See, you know what i'm talking about...You can be wearing the ''no-name'' nameless brand shoes on the planet, but if them things are twinkling, well, you just got the ''Golden Ticket'' to the gates my friend. Girls don't wanna see a guy with busted shoes AND they don't want to be SEEN with a guy with busted shoes, get my drift. If a nice young lady sees a guy who has a good look and nice attire, well, she isn't going to mind hanging from his arm around town is she? I think not :)

First thing you gotta be chill. Don't be all paranoid, she won't bite. Ask questions about herself, make her laugh. Girls like to talk about themselves. Basically just be yourself.

Make fun of the principal, teachers, PE coaches, etc. Teenage girls love a joke at someone elses expense. Actually nobody knows what teenage girls like. there are a few in these forums though maybe they can help.

bassically what pathtek said and u got to smell good and dont forget to flirt after ur comortable w/ eachother and make her laugh that ALWAYS works for me i'd say thats proly one the biggest thing
although i've nvr had a problem w/ the bad shoes and my shoes arn't great

be yourself, relax, don't plan what your going to say or you'll muck it up. whatever (except sex) pops into your head say it.
smile
be nice
Ask questions about her
act fasinated about everything she says

dont use any pick up lines on her right away, when ever guys use pick up lines on me I think that they want to talk to me for all the wrong reasons.

dont use any pick up lines on her right away, when ever guys use pick up lines on me I think that they want to talk to me for all the wrong reasons.

Yes, unless desperate, and the ship is going down you should never try:

''Is that a mirror in your pocket?...Cause I can see myself in your pants!''

''Did it hurt?...When you feel from heaven!''

''Your legs must be tired...cause you've been running thru my mind all day''

''If I told you, you had a hot body...would you hold it AGAINST me?''

First off. the best advice I'll ever give you is dont try to be funny. Because honestly, the funny big mouthed guys get all the girls that are worth nothing. Be yourself, be chill. Just pretty much don't get to close. And don't get to comfortable before you know if shes 'onto you'. Don't compliment her, don't kiss her, don't hug her. Just be careful what you do. Personally I wouldn't date so young. Ive been with the same girl for awhile. we started really young. And trust me, it gets you into trouble, but on the other hand its a really great friend. Just be chill.

Hey guys ya ever heard that ole saying learn stuff from your elders well im 13 so im pretty young and most of you are at least 3 years older than me so I just wanted to know got any conversation starters cause theres this girl im gonnna be alone with tommorow whos soooo pretty but I dont know what ill talk about to her cause shes a girl im sure everyone has this problem sometime in their life any advice on what to do?(nothing about skateboarding or sex...)


Sounds like a good opprtunity to get to really know her if you are really serious about getting to to know her. Or maybe you just want impress her for the sake of it.

Whatever you do, be respectful

if u want to make her laugh after ur somewhat comfortable w/ her some how bring up pick up lines and tell her really cheasy ones like ask her if u were a pirat would u put ur parot here(touch her shoulder thats closest to her0 or over here(touch her other shoulder so yr arms around her that seems to make girls laugh when i try it but it wont always work

If you wanna win her over, be funny and try not to be clumsy. And if your gonna be clumsy, make it seem funny. Always keep her entertained and be sure to listen to what she says and stuff. Why are you two together alone for 2 hours? A date?

Make fun of the principal, teachers, PE coaches, etc. Teenage girls love a joke at someone elses expense. Actually nobody knows what teenage girls like. there are a few in these forums though maybe they can help.

I have to say this is the best advice so far.


Yes, unless desperate, and the ship is going down you should never try:

''Is that a mirror in your pocket?...Cause I can see myself in your pants!''

''Did it hurt?...When you feel from heaven!''

''Your legs must be tired...cause you've been running thru my mind all day''

''If I told you, you had a hot body...would you hold it AGAINST me?''

"Does this rag smell like chloroform?

I dont see how people can just start up a conversation about music or something random like that. It would make you look like a dork, first time you ever talked to someone "Hi I like Greenday, do you?". Maybe it works for some people, I wouldn't have the nerve to try it haha.

Just try talking about something your doing at the moment. You wont look like an ass for bringing it up, and the conversation might be useful, rather then having it for the sake of having it. Although having said that, ive never actually used that on anyone, the only girlfriend ive had asked me out (so im pretty much the man). Go get 'er!

An easy topic is school, ask her, even if you know, what electives she's taking.

If she wants to go to college.

What does she want to go to school for.

For the 1st time together forget the flirting, or anything serious. When your at the end either say, "lets do this again sometime." If its something like studying or a school project, thats and easy in. She knows you a little, she knows your not a weirdo, and most importantly, your starting to know her.

The most important things, whatever you talk about, is listen. Take what she says and use it later, let her know that your actually interested in what shes saying and your not just taking up space.

Wow. Im sad that all you guys say "be funny"


I was the "funny guy". Sometimes it goes to far. How about trying the "Nice guy" shawn. Its alot better. :)

Wow. Im sad that all you guys say "be funny"


I was the "funny guy". Sometimes it goes to far. How about trying the "Nice guy" shawn. Its alot better. :)
For the record, I didn't.


Oh yeah, and don't listen to any advice that females give you. They don't know what they want.

Well me Im 20 and the way I talk to girls is I just ask them questions and listen to what they say and then they'll start talking and sooner or later they ask me something.

all you guys seem to know what your talking about aye, i had to learn the hard way how to behave around chicks, i spent many years being a clown round them and acting the fool and have had like one girlfreind, surprise surprise, it is only just recently i have looked at myself and asked why. i beleive you should treat that girl with respect, listen to what she says and take notice of her (e.g if she gets her hair done tell her it looks nice) also find out what she likes and talk about her interests, dont focus on yourself. just be nice to her and everything should work out. It is all about playing it smooth and making her feel special.
tell her what you think too, like if you think she is pretty tell her.
well like i said i havent had that much luck in the past so i wouldnt take my word for it but thats what i beleive, so take it or leave it.
all in all, gud luck mate, i hope everything goes well for you.

Theres alot of things.

Music.
How was your day?
Favorite this that.
Its complete up to
What you feel like saying?
So don't be embarrased and just
Be you.

Thats all good so I guess iull open my two hour converse with "Hi Leah how was your day..."

Is that today? Let us know how it went ;) (bad or good)

Good luck, and remember, shine them shoes :p!! Dirty spots come off with rubbing alcohol or peroxide :)

K ill let you know g2g now though so peace.

For the record, I didn't.


Oh yeah, and don't listen to any advice that females give you. They don't know what they want.


I meant most. My good.


And girls will give you bad advice. Trust me. NEVER use one of her friends that are a girl to get to her. They lie, and say things, blah blah blah. You'll do fine.

If worst comes to worst, offer her a drink of something and get yourself one so there isn't an uncomfortable silence and you can have a few minutes alone to plan your next move haha.

The 2nd worst thing ever happened...my sister got sick and I got picked up early with her...I didnt get to see the girl...and that was like my only chance ill ever have too cause the girl I love is in none of my classes at all...whatll I do now guys well never get to see each other again probly then ill never get her to like me...then ill be all alone and I really liked her alot much more than any other girl ive ever liked in my short life...

Alrighty kid. It sucks, I know the feeling, I still sometimes feel that way. But the best thing you can is be brave, and some how get her number, call her up and talk.

dw mate, cant you see her at lunchtime???, just go and talk to her then, soz to hear anyways mate, im sure it will all work out. i reckon lunch is the go, it may be intimidating to talk to her in front of her freinds but take a mate and go and talk to her, it should be easier then if ya have a mate to back ya up hope ive been sum help

My school is to poor to buy a caffeteria so we eat in our homeroom desks and shes not in my homeroom either plus how can I call her when we havnt spoken in two weeks I dont wanna rush her and be like "Hi Leah havnt talked with ya in 2 weeks hey wanna give me your number..."

doesnt your skool have lunch outside???, must be real different to aus lol, we walk round at lunch and talk to heaps of peoples. maybe get a mate to get it??? could you see her outta skool??? surely there must be sum way of being in contact with her???

Nope fraid not see im in none of her classes like I said and we eat lunch inside in different rooms so I only get a glance of her when I pass her in the halls...and how could I even ask my friend to do that cause I cant just rudly ask her out thatd be rude I gotta get to talk to her some more first.

You're only 13 for christ's sake. You're obviously not going to marry this chick or get in her pants, so what's the point?

7th grade 'relationships' only last for 3 days at the most, and then they pretend to have drama afterwards.

Thats not necessisarily rue dude and how the hell is that helpful advice?

You're still quite young so I'm sure you'll meet more amazing girls as years pass by. But if you really really want this one, you need to DO something. Seriously, as a girl, I know these things. We hate waiting, we don't like making the first move. Girls are unsure, especially teenage girls. She might like you too but she's waiting for you to make the first move.

I still remember this one guy from 8th grade. I had the biggest crush on him but of course I was too shy to go and talk to him. It's hard to just start a conversation with a complete stranger. So I waited and waited, I wanted him to notice me. Nothing eventually happened but years later I heard from the guy's little sister who ended up in the same high school with me that he used to ask her about me and if she knew me and what I was like. So yeah, if one of us would've been brave enough to make the first move, who knows what could've happened..

The point is that you need to do something. If you don't know what to say, just ask the time. That's a good starter, seriously haha.

Sonja thats quite good advice well at least I think so the only problem is shes not in any of my classes what im asking is how do I talk to her when I only see her in the halls...and all the other guys told me not to trust a teenage girls advice but I guess that is good advice if only I was in some of her classes man I could so make a move on her.

Sonja thats quite good advice well at least I think so the only problem is shes not in any of my classes what im asking is how do I talk to her when I only see her in the halls...and all the other guys told me not to trust a teenage girls advice but I guess that is good advice if only I was in some of her classes man I could so make a move on her.
Just say hi to her in the halls or say something to her in the halls, there is enough time between classes, I mean who cares if your late? lol

Just say hi to her in the halls or say something to her in the halls, there is enough time between classes, I mean who cares if your late? lolK I guess ill have to resort to just saying hi as we pass in the hall but shell have her friend with me and im her firneds ex-boyfriend but still cant I just do that anyways?

The 2nd worst thing ever happened...my sister got sick and I got picked up early with her...I didnt get to see the girl...and that was like my only chance ill ever have too cause the girl I love is in none of my classes at all...whatll I do now guys well never get to see each other again probly then ill never get her to like me...then ill be all alone and I really liked her alot much more than any other girl ive ever liked in my short life...


NO WAY!!??!! Aw man, that really sucks! If you see that girl in the halls at school, you need to just walk by her and maybe strike a conversation then. Nothing major, just a casual ''Hi'', ''How you doing?'', ''What class you have next?'' and so on and so forth. It may be the only way at this point, unless she goes to a school event and you see her there. Just make sure your looking like ''the money'' and give her that ol' Shawn smile...

Ah Pathtek4 if theres one thing I must compliment on its the ability to make people smile I guess im kinda sad right now but that ole Shawn smile things funny and like I said before is it a problem that her friend she always walks with will be with her and her friends my ex-girlfriend who now totally hates me...

Ah Pathtek4 if theres one thing I must compliment on its the ability to make people smile I guess im kinda sad right now but that ole Shawn smile things funny and like I said before is it a problem that her friend she always walks with will be with her and her friends my ex-girlfriend who now totally hates me...
erll that will make it a bit uncomfortable lol, but still pathtek and my advice for right now is the best, just say Hi to her in the hallways, and maybe be a bit late for class, lol...

Yep, I think it'd be better if she were alone and not with her friends. Is there any chance you might catch her somewhere alone? Cause then it'd be easier to go and talk to her.

Maybe ill be on the lookout for chances maybe I can cath her swingin by her locker!

If you really wanna know, just say whats up and start doing something else like your preoccupied. She'll take it from there.

Just because you missed that chance doesnt mean you have to give up. If you want it, go take it. (by "take it" im NOT suggesting you rape her in any way lol, i just mean go talk to her)

Lmao thats good and what could I possibly be preoccupied with?

Your situation kind of sucks dude, I'm sorry =/ but I just got out of a relationship where I rarely got to see the girl (due to her living about an hour or so away and me having no car yet) and I know how it is. but definately, you need to be confident. apparently chicks dig that ;) and if you're feeling like a conversation is going nowhere, just improvise. works for me hahaha

Ah Pathtek4 if theres one thing I must compliment on its the ability to make people smile I guess im kinda sad right now but that ole Shawn smile things funny and like I said before is it a problem that her friend she always walks with will be with her and her friends my ex-girlfriend who now totally hates me...

Ya know, this just isn't getting any easier for you is it? I mean ex-girlfriends friend?! That is the toughest one to go after....I hope (FOR YOU), that maybe a time where this girl and your ex might not be on speaking terms, then you can jump in there at that moment...otherwise, your going to have to play russion rohelette it looks like. Find your moment, and pounce on it like a tiger on a little bunny :p

do you actually know this chick or is she just sumone youve talked to once??? because if youve talked to her a few times then obviously there is sum time ya can talk to her. anyways gud luck with it man, hope it all works out aye.

Ive talked to her some and she was in all of my classes last year.(I surely am the most unlucky guy alive)and I guess I will have to play Russian Rohelette but im only in the 7th grade so whats Russian Rohelette?

Ive talked to her some and she was in all of my classes last year.(I surely am the most unlucky guy alive)and I guess I will have to play Russian Rohelette but im only in the 7th grade so whats Russian Rohelette?

Well, the expression came from when 2 people sat at a table with a gun and 1 one bullet in the chamber. First person picks it up, spins the chamber, and locks it in, holds the gun up to their head and pulls the trigger...click, nothing. The other guy takes a turn and goes ahead and does the same thing...click, nothing. They keep going to someone, er, wins :p

Hmmm ya know why dont they teach us this kinda thing at school it beats the hell outa other history and ya then I guess im playin Russian Rouhlette maybe today with a little luck ill be able to say hi to her sometime...just maybe...possibly...and hey isnt it a bad thing to win in Russian Rouhlette?Well in my case its good to win right?

Hmmm ya know why dont they teach us this kinda thing at school it beats the hell outa other history and ya then I guess im playin Russian Rouhlette maybe today with a little luck ill be able to say hi to her sometime...just maybe...possibly...and hey isnt it a bad thing to win in Russian Rouhlette?Well in my case its good to win right?

In your case, yes winning would be good...It's another way of saying ''Your taking your chance when the opportunity knocks''! Well it's knocking Shawn, so go answer it :)

and yes, it's not a good thing to win at Russian Rohlette...Well, actually the guy the wins is the loser...kind of strange I know..haha

Thats so strange it'd be freakin hilarious if people still played that game that would beat football by 100 yards!And today i'lll be on top lookout for my oppritunity plus my best friend hes in most of her classes im gonna ask him to tell me if she says anything just so I already get an idea of what she likes ,sneaky, huh?

I gotta go school time wish me luck with it all!

Haha, reminds me of Starsky and Hutch where Starsky is in the tank with Chow and he flips when they play Russian Roulette.

Maybe if you see her around town talk to her then?

Thats so strange it'd be freakin hilarious if people still played that game that would beat football by 100 yards!And today i'lll be on top lookout for my oppritunity plus my best friend hes in most of her classes im gonna ask him to tell me if she says anything just so I already get an idea of what she likes ,sneaky, huh?

I gotta go school time wish me luck with it all!

Best of luck to you and getting your girl :)...Don't stress it, just be cool and casual. You got a good head on your shoulders, if she doesn't see that, there may be something not right with her :p

Ok today was great!I found some opportunity an got some luck with it to lemme tell ya everythin...
Firstly,ya know one of her best friends whos my ex-girlfriend?Well,shes been extreemly nice to me all day today wich is good I think.
Secondly,her other best friend,Sarah, has a huuuuge crush on me is that good or bad?
Thirdly,now onto what actually happened between me and Leah personally I guess...at lunch Leah came to my homeroom to brade Sarahs's hair and Sarah braded Leahs afterword but while Leah was brading Sarah's hair I galknced at them and Sarah said (in a cute voice with a flirty smile)"Shawn your staring at us.."and I replied with a grin and sayin "Yu-huh I am" and to that Leah smiled at me.
Fourthly,and finally when Laeh and I talk to each other,were in the auditoruim waiting to get picked up by our parentsand I sit one row behind her and start playin Black Jack with my best friend Chris and another one of her best friends named Kimberly starts lookin back at me alot and I say "You like staring at me am I pretty?" (I know Kimberly very well)she just nods her head then another one of Leahs friends,Mary,smiles and says "They both think your cute"then she started blushing and lookin in my eyes and I said "OH you flatter me" in a cool voice with a cool grin.(All the girlsd looooove it when I grin just now startin to figure that out."

ahaha nice man, hmm sarah has a crush on you aye, that could be bad because leah mite not want to ofeend her freind by getting with you if ya know what i mean. like if your mate liked a chcik and she lked you, would you go out with her???, probs not because you wouldnt want to cause trouble beteween you and him. anyways mate gudluck with the whole thing

Yes I would actually...just cause the best get the best havnt you heard that befoe?Lol.

Aw silly shawn. :]



Guys when I was in kindergarden, all these girls were like obsessed with me, and one day my mom came in as a lunch aid and they went up to her and were like "mrs vangorder, we all like nick" Wow. You know how that is when your little? The whole way home my mom chanted I had girlfriends. I ended up cry because I was embarresed. haha, then like in 7 th grade I saw one of the girls at the park..wow. She still was all over me. No joke. I was a pimp from the start.

Turns out the girl you were re-united with in 7th grade was Marissa(is that the girl?) and you've been going out with her since.

Aw silly shawn. :]

Guys when I was in kindergarden, all these girls were like obsessed with me, and one day my mom came in as a lunch aid and they went up to her and were like "mrs vangorder, we all like nick"

Haha I actually did that a couple of weeks ago. I met this cool kid in Barcelona and ran into his mom at Starbucks. I just had to go up to her and tell her that her son's pretty cool. She was all like "aww thank you, that's so nice" and gave me his phone number and myspace and all the imaginable contact information. It was pretty weird, haha.

But anyhow. Shawn, good luck with the whole situation! I know you're gonna get her!

Well I guess all the fuss is over now but I picked up some pretty good advice from somewhere I can't remember.

1. Forget that she's a girl.
2. Forget that she's not your friend (unless she is which is great).

I guess that's my input...

Aw silly shawn. :]



Guys when I was in kindergarden, all these girls were like obsessed with me, and one day my mom came in as a lunch aid and they went up to her and were like "mrs vangorder, we all like nick" Wow. You know how that is when your little? The whole way home my mom chanted I had girlfriends. I ended up cry because I was embarresed. haha, then like in 7 th grade I saw one of the girls at the park..wow. She still was all over me. No joke. I was a pimp from the start.

Psshh, RIGHT.. :icon_wink

Turns out the girl you were re-united with in 7th grade was Marissa(is that the girl?) and you've been going out with her since.

AWWWWW Nick, is this true?:tongue:

hahah no. I met Marissa a year later. Rissy is year younger than me.

Ya sonja I guess everytime somethin good happens ill post it to let you all know how its goin for me.

The 2nd worst thing ever happened...my sister got sick and I got picked up early with her...I didnt get to see the girl...and that was like my only chance ill ever have too cause the girl I love is in none of my classes at all...whatll I do now guys well never get to see each other again probly then ill never get her to like me...then ill be all alone and I really liked her alot much more than any other girl ive ever liked in my short life...

TIME FOR ENIGMATICS GUIDE FOR INEXPIENCED GUYS AND WOMEN!

Pay no attention to me, I dont mean to be the counterbalance of this entire thread... But whatever i really couldnt care much less...

Now. First of all i highly doubt you "love" her. I used to get little crushes confused with "love" because im a romantic.

You need to seriously, either do something. Or Move on. Because at this rate the farthest your gonna get with this girl. Is mentioning her name in a round of truth or dare (yeah, i remember middle school)

Furthormore, you didnt get your two hours with her, boo hoo... I gurantee you this is a good thing, It would have been the most boring to hours of your life, akward as hell to. Now lets get you started on the right track.

Things you should do...

BE CONFIDENT
Seriously nobody likes a kiss#@!% with no personality. Sure, bring her flowers, it doesnt matter, whats gonna make you any different from the guys that are all going for her. You have to be differnt, bold, and most importantly, you cant seem like your really hitting on her.

BE SMART
For christ sakes dont tell your freinds you have a crush on this chick. Really there not gonna be helpull at all. Maybe tell your big brother or something. Not your freinds...

DONT ASK HER OUT
Yeah, I remember it all to well. "Do you want to go out with me?"

No, you just dont ask someone to be your girlfreind. It really just doesnt work. Im gonna tell you exactly what to do. Weather you do it or not, once again i dont really care but i hope you do...

STEP ONE
Show your intrested in her, some girls think its cute that your all akward and blushy and uncomforatble. But it doesnt fly with most girls. Even if it does you dont want a C for cute and a pitty date.

SO instead start by getting to know her, Walk with her and talk with her. Just at random, dont wait for the right moment. obviously its not the right time when shes mourning over her dead grandfather. But otherwise your just making up excuses. At lunch, Before school, After school. Etc. It reallly doesnt matter.

Afterwards, i suggest NOT talking to her for about two days. On the second night call her up. Just say that you were feeling bored/lonely and you figured "who better to talk to"

Go on by asking her about her day. Find out whats up. Just chill out for about an hour. Shell get into it and then... YOU HAVE TO GO. Homework or something it doesnt matter.

Talk to her a lot for the next 3 days. Then let her know how your freinds all ditched you and your left bored and lonely on friday night. Ask her what shes doing. and NOOOW is when you ask if she wants to "HANG OUT". No movies, trust me, ask her if she wants to go to the mall.

Now your golden. Kay? Just do it.

If you followed my step by step guide which im starting to wonder why i wrote correctly. You should have a girlfreind in... 7 days!

Be preoccupied with being a total badass. That always gets the fine ladies.

That sounds real great I guess in 7 days thats pretty fast and your right about one thing "Would you like to hang out?" sounds better than "Would you like to go out?"The only problem is im way to made of jello to call her in the next few days....I would melt if I tried...

That sounds real great I guess in 7 days thats pretty fast and your right about one thing "Would you like to hang out?" sounds better than "Would you like to go out?"The only problem is im way to made of jello to call her in the next few days....I would melt if I tried...

Well your not gonna get the girl if you dont get over it...

If you havin' girl problems i feel bad for you son,
I got 99 problems but a b**** ain't one.

J/K. Just try and be smooth and not too interested. Keep them clothes clean ;)

Well thats just to fast I think maybe ill take a slower route.

The only problem is im way to made of jello to call her in the next few days....I would melt if I tried...

Oh well thats too bad. Maybe if you were made of pudding you'd have a shot.

Ya I know it'd be even better if I was made of custard, well not really cause I hate custard.

But jell-o is yummy :(

You're only 13 for christ's sake. You're obviously not going to marry this chick or get in her pants, so what's the point?

7th grade 'relationships' only last for 3 days at the most, and then they pretend to have drama afterwards.

13 is 8th grade for most people...

However, I don't agree with the getting in pants part of that. I am 13, and you can fill in the rest.

Wow I sound like a player. Sick.

Actually pudding's way stronger than jell-o is and custard too anyways some people are lucky their made of pudding.

Ok today was great!I found some opportunity an got some luck with it to lemme tell ya everythin...
Firstly,ya know one of her best friends whos my ex-girlfriend?Well,shes been extreemly nice to me all day today wich is good I think.
Secondly,her other best friend,Sarah, has a huuuuge crush on me is that good or bad?
Thirdly,now onto what actually happened between me and Leah personally I guess...at lunch Leah came to my homeroom to brade Sarahs's hair and Sarah braded Leahs afterword but while Leah was brading Sarah's hair I galknced at them and Sarah said (in a cute voice with a flirty smile)"Shawn your staring at us.."and I replied with a grin and sayin "Yu-huh I am" and to that Leah smiled at me.
Fourthly,and finally when Laeh and I talk to each other,were in the auditoruim waiting to get picked up by our parentsand I sit one row behind her and start playin Black Jack with my best friend Chris and another one of her best friends named Kimberly starts lookin back at me alot and I say "You like staring at me am I pretty?" (I know Kimberly very well)she just nods her head then another one of Leahs friends,Mary,smiles and says "They both think your cute"then she started blushing and lookin in my eyes and I said "OH you flatter me" in a cool voice with a cool grin.(All the girlsd looooove it when I grin just now startin to figure that out."

Shawn, your pulling in ALL THE LADIES! I mean, I was trying to help ya be a ''playa'', but I think I turned you into a PIMP! :p...Keep that good head on your shoulders man, and you'll be making them ladies faint all thru the years ;)

Now all we need to do is teach you the ''Elvis Pelvic Pump'' and your gonna be the MONEY!!

Whats an Elvis Pelvic Pump?Isn't that when Elvis is like humping himself on the stage?And ya that advice is kick-ass im going to buy new shoes today im gonna get Adio's Legacy in Tan/White they look soooo good in the magazine and I bet Leah will like them alot too!

TIME FOR ENIGMATICS GUIDE FOR INEXPIENCED GUYS AND WOMEN!

Pay no attention to me, I dont mean to be the counterbalance of this entire thread... But whatever i really couldnt care much less...

Now. First of all i highly doubt you "love" her. I used to get little crushes confused with "love" because im a romantic.

You need to seriously, either do something. Or Move on. Because at this rate the farthest your gonna get with this girl. Is mentioning her name in a round of truth or dare (yeah, i remember middle school)

Furthormore, you didnt get your two hours with her, boo hoo... I gurantee you this is a good thing, It would have been the most boring to hours of your life, akward as hell to. Now lets get you started on the right track.

Things you should do...

BE CONFIDENT
Seriously nobody likes a kiss#@!% with no personality. Sure, bring her flowers, it doesnt matter, whats gonna make you any different from the guys that are all going for her. You have to be differnt, bold, and most importantly, you cant seem like your really hitting on her.

BE SMART
For christ sakes dont tell your freinds you have a crush on this chick. Really there not gonna be helpull at all. Maybe tell your big brother or something. Not your freinds...

DONT ASK HER OUT
Yeah, I remember it all to well. "Do you want to go out with me?"

No, you just dont ask someone to be your girlfreind. It really just doesnt work. Im gonna tell you exactly what to do. Weather you do it or not, once again i dont really care but i hope you do...

STEP ONE
Show your intrested in her, some girls think its cute that your all akward and blushy and uncomforatble. But it doesnt fly with most girls. Even if it does you dont want a C for cute and a pitty date.

SO instead start by getting to know her, Walk with her and talk with her. Just at random, dont wait for the right moment. obviously its not the right time when shes mourning over her dead grandfather. But otherwise your just making up excuses. At lunch, Before school, After school. Etc. It reallly doesnt matter.

Afterwards, i suggest NOT talking to her for about two days. On the second night call her up. Just say that you were feeling bored/lonely and you figured "who better to talk to"

Go on by asking her about her day. Find out whats up. Just chill out for about an hour. Shell get into it and then... YOU HAVE TO GO. Homework or something it doesnt matter.

Talk to her a lot for the next 3 days. Then let her know how your freinds all ditched you and your left bored and lonely on friday night. Ask her what shes doing. and NOOOW is when you ask if she wants to "HANG OUT". No movies, trust me, ask her if she wants to go to the mall.

Now your golden. Kay? Just do it.

If you followed my step by step guide which im starting to wonder why i wrote correctly. You should have a girlfreind in... 7 days!

Probably the best post Ive ever seen from you. You summed up all I wanted to say In a short message.


Ill post the ages in front of what Im talking about.


hahaha.{riss was 12, I was 13} I remeber the gold old days shawn, me and riss would stick with our friends, and every once in awhile she'd turn around and wave, and her friends would chuckle, blah blah blah blah blah I thought I loved her I didn't.{riss was 13, i was 14.} Then we went through a state with fighting, constantly, we broke up for two weeks then got back together, broke up again, and then again. {she is 14, I am 15} We got really really close after we stayed together, she losed her mom, and her dad is so poor, he losed everything. But I can tell you, and Im not even being immature, because I know after 2 year I fell in love with her. Now we are comfortable as heck around each other. Its crazy. But on thing Id suggest shawn is make sure before you start any relationship, you get to know the person.. because everyone has a little past that effects them.

Talk about something and see what she likes but don't ask to many question's or it will be very awkward.

Yooo it sounds like you got this whole thing down. Smooth work young grasshoppa, now you must go in for the kill. *re read my steps*

Now is right about when youd call her flirt with her. and in say 2 days time ask her if shed like to go to the mall.

Playa Playa!

No cant do that waaaayyyyy to soon for me im a slow person cant make a hasty move like that one!And speakin of family deaths my dad died when I was 7 and im a guy so I've pretty much never experienced father and son moments that I can remember.

Looks like your golden. Just don't do any of these...

http://bret.mcgowen.net/pictures/sanantonio2004/Ride%20Home%20Grin.jpg

AKA make sure you aren't sweaty, and don't force smiles.

Oh and shave.

Oh, and don't get pimples.

I zit-less infact I must tell you my secret I use Noxzema every night and have never had any pimples and im only 13 I dont have a beard or anything.

http://www.ea911.org/games/zitguy/one/images/zit.jpg

Do the yawn thing, yawn and stretch your arms, than put one of them around her. Or use corny pick up lines. That's how I got my girlfriend. "Do you work at the post office? Because I swear I saw you checking out my package" :wink:

^^umm. no dont do the "yawn thing". i mean, unless you like being slapped. then by all means, do it

pathek thats some real good advice. its all about the shoes
and not all girls like that kind of music. my girl likes emo/rock music

and one last piece of advice. dont get her friends pissed at you. make friends with her friends.

just meet up with her at a party outside of school or somthin or a dance, i liked this one girl and then we hooked up at a party and that was pretty sweet and then i moved on yes the good old american way

Ya im being super nice to all her friends.

:icon_pelv ya dude if you go with one of your friends or somthin and hang with her and her friends it makes it easier if its not just 1 on 1 because then you can talk with her more but it dosent seem as akward because theres more people and dude try keeping your options open with other girls, like i flirt with all the hot girls at my school and then outside of school maby you get some:icon_pelv :icon_drib

Umm thats like cheating and im never gonna cheat on her.

Ya im being super nice to all her friends.
Exactly, but instead of just her friends, be nice to all girls in general. It will show her that you are a nice and courteous person.

um not if ur not goin out with her its not, i guess ive never fealt that strongly about a girl i always leave my options open

Ya I know I used to be the same but shes a bit different I really like her more than enoughj to make out then ditch her spidy-man style I actually like her.

Yawn arm thing = http://webpages.ursinus.edu/srl/coop%20slapped.jpg

Oh, and you better not talk about her mom like that.

Ya I know I used to be the same but shes a bit different I really like her mom than enoughj to make out then ditch her spidy-man style I actually like to do that.

yea i mean ive liked girls too but if i dont see it going anywhere then im not gonna waste my time liking her if shes never gonna like me back, plus girls give the classic response i dont wanna date anybody right now i just wanna have fun and no have a boyfriend :icon_burn god i hate the damn bull****:icon_burn

Hmmm ya ok then wont do that.

Ya thats bull**** all girls can have boyfriends they just give that as a hell no!

ok man dont listen to me if you dont want to but at least dont just sit there make a move otherwsise your never going to make any progress

I've made a move i've talked to her some and will continue doing that till we talk more and more and become more and more comfortable around each other.

Ya I know I used to be the same but shes a bit different I really like her more than enoughj to make out then ditch her spidy-man style I actually like her.

The fact that you said you don't want to ditch her 'spidy-man style' shows that you're not ready to have a girlfriend.

CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER

call her. talk to her about how your watching laguna beach (its your new guilty pleasure, girls love it, live with it)

and you needed someone to talk to. and you couldnt get her out of your hreaed. and blah blah blah. and just talk about whats on tv

then follow the steps. 3 more days to succes.... im tellin ya.

just meet up with her at a party outside of school or somthin or a dance, i liked this one girl and then we hooked up at a party and that was pretty sweet and then i moved on yes the good old american way


How about not classify us all in that catigorie. There is others out there who actually can have a relationship, and they are Americans. Like me. Your the biggest idiot by the way.

CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER
CALL HER

call her. talk to her about how your watching laguna beach (its your new guilty pleasure, girls love it, live with it)

and you needed someone to talk to. and you couldnt get her out of your hreaed. and blah blah blah. and just talk about whats on tv

then follow the steps. 3 more days to succes.... im tellin ya.I dont have her number I need to talk to her a bit more till she's comfortable with me then i'll ask her for her number.

Shawn, this is the most compelling online Soap Opera EVER! I look forward to the updates in this thread on whats going on next...I'm living my life THRU YOU, don't disappoint me, hahahaha :p

Ya lmao some how thats extremly funny and encouraging for me and yup the "Shawn Loves Leah" soap opera will have new episodes every weekday at about 5:30 my time cause thats when I get off my board and come into my favorite online site ever!But for today im gonna see if she notces my new clothes and shoes there very pretty shoes everyone says I can only hope she'll think the same...to be continued...lol thats how im gonna end all my updates in here from now on...

>_> No one likes cliche things anymore, but I tell ya, people find them funny. If you actually want a girl to be impressed, bake her something. Nothing from a mix, but home made brownies are good. I can post up my personal recipe if you'd like

If you want to impress a 'real' girl, then don't be impressive.

Yes please put a recipe!!!!And now for Episode 3 of Shawn Opera today was a Pep-rally and I was there and she was too but anyways at the end of the day I was behind her and said Hi and she was about to say Hello back but Mary (the person I fight with alot) is now one of her good friends and she interupted saying "Dont talk with him!" and that was cause Mary and I got in a huge word fight earlier and anyways I saw she was kinda sad but she didnt say anything for about a minute then her car came so that was the end of that...to be continued...

Dude, everything that is happening to you is reminding me of middle school. Ahhhh, middle school...I hated it! You got detention for chewing gum and slapped everytime you used sexual humor within 20 feet of a girl.

Shawn, My worst enimy was riss' friend for awhile. It sucked so bad. But in the end nothing matters when a girl says she doesn't love you.

Huh???Are you saying Leah doesnt love me no more?!?Holy**** you guys gotta tell me how I can make Mary not hate me no more.

I'm too lazy to read the entire thread, but from what i gather, you had a date with this girl, it got cancelled, and now you're trying to fix things up, but you never see her out side of school.
Am I right so far?

if i am...
C'mon man, you gotta know you have to see her out of school as well. You can't have a relationship during the passing time in between classes.

Otherwise, the best advice is honestly just be yourself.
Some people have said be funny! some have said don't be funny.
Neither is relevant.
If you're funny, be funny. If you're not, don't try.

once you're a little closer to her, make an effort to be friends with her friends.
Have it be more like "awww, he likes her" rather than "whos that guy who's chasing her?"

Ah ya I have a goal for tomorow...im gonna ask her if she...was a pirate were would she put her parrot and tap her shoulder then tap her other shoulder from behind thus meaning I have my arm around her...sneaky and effective huh?

Ah ya I have a goal for tomorow...im gonna ask her if she...was a pirate were would she put her parrot and tap her shoulder then tap her other shoulder from behind thus meaning I have my arm around her...sneaky and effective huh?
That was in the list of "Things never to say unless you are going down hill." Never question Mike(Pathtek4) or go against his advice. He is wise. If you don't believe me, read one of his many ah misfotunes that taught him wisdom for high school.

http://www.skaterscafe.com/showthread.php?t=23742&highlight=Pathtek4+Strings

(If you don't want me bringing that back up mike just delete it, but I didn't think you'd mind)

That was in the list of "Things never to say unless you are going down hill." Never question Mike(Pathtek4) or go against his advice. He is wise. If you don't believe me, read one of his many ah misfotunes that taught him wisdom for high school.

http://www.skaterscafe.com/showthread.php?t=23742&highlight=Pathtek4+Strings

(If you don't want me bringing that back up mike just delete it, but I didn't think you'd mind)OMG Pathtek im sooo sorry thad happened to you well count yourself lucky your good at sports im the kid who sucks at everything he tries at and doesnt even have to do anything like pulling a tampon to get made fun of infact if I was you I wouldve died right there theyd have called 911 "Hello a boy passed out!""How what did he do?""He pulled a girls tampon!"

That was in the list of "Things never to say unless you are going down hill." Never question Mike(Pathtek4) or go against his advice. He is wise. If you don't believe me, read one of his many ah misfotunes that taught him wisdom for high school.

http://www.skaterscafe.com/showthread.php?t=23742&highlight=Pathtek4+Strings

(If you don't want me bringing that back up mike just delete it, but I didn't think you'd mind)
I remember reading that a while back, but its still quite funny, lmao! {rf)

Yup sooo funny yet I still dont think thats a pickup line it sounds more like a casual thing to say if you ask me...

Ah ya I have a goal for tomorow...im gonna ask her if she...was a pirate were would she put her parrot and tap her shoulder then tap her other shoulder from behind thus meaning I have my arm around her...sneaky and effective huh?
i told ya to do that so yeah sounds like a good idea

Yup you did and I told it to my pal and he said dang that sounds like a good way to get your arm around her...and I was like yup sure is...

walk up and lick her on the cheek, trust me she'll go for it. naw im jk. talk to her about small stuff like music and movies and what not so you can get an idea of what she's like and then go from there.

Lol had me worried there for a second.

Don't use cheap little tricks to put your arm around her.
If you're going to, just move closer and put it around her, naturally. Don't make a big deal of it.

I think you should quit while you're ahead. If you really are serious about going out with this chick or any girl, you're not going to have to come online to ask for advice. It'll just click.

^ nah man if you really like her just keep workin it id give it a month after that its up to you to keep going good luck though!:icon_hug:

Shawn.. what are you like 13? Don't bother with girls yet dude. They suck. They'll leave you for some 15 year old ******* who thinks he's a G, just forget them.

Ah but I dont wanna forget her I already like her alot and wouldnt it be a bit weird to just come up and put my arm around her I dont wanna make her uncomfortable.

Ah but I dont wanna forget her I already like her alot and wouldnt it be a bit weird to just come up and put my arm around her I dont wanna make her uncomfortable.


First things first.

. That is a period. , That is a comma. Use them when needed.

Secondly, i think its even more uncomfortable to use some sleazy trick to put your arm around a girl. Just as you sit down next to her, throw your arm around, casually. Don't make a big deal of it, just like you do it all the time.
If she likes you, she wont mind.

Dude, honestly you have to make your move. Your waisting precious time you could spend with this girl drooling over her. Time isn't going to stop for you and her, so Id use it best to your advantage. Tell her how you feel. My teacher always tells the class, "If you like someone tell them, make the best of it before its to late and you spend your time thinking about telling them" Boom, follow that man.

Shawn.. what are you like 13? Don't bother with girls yet dude. They suck. They'll leave you for some 15 year old ******* who thinks he's a G, just forget them.
he's right and then when ur fifteen the girl u like who's the same age will go out with somone who's 17 or 18 its really anoying so yeah i'd say forget about it for now plus then if u do go out then u have less mony to buy skate stuff with...lol

Ahh im sipping on hot chocolate right now my body was so cold my mom almost had to call the emergency room cause my heart started hurtin and I was numb it took us like 20 minutes to thaw me out over a fire,heater,and extremly warm just out of the dryer blankets.And what you want me to tell her how much I like her are you out of your mind i've hardly got to flirt with her yet you just want me to walk up and go like this "Hi Leah ,do you wanna go out with me?"Lik I said earlier im waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too nervous to do that yet anyways if I get to talking with her more then maybe I wont be so nervous and ill finally be able to tell her...And now time for "Shawn Love Leah" Episode 4 Today was kinda weird considering its spirit week at my school and all the girls dressed french.Leah and her bestest friend Sarah (yes Shawn found out that Sarah and Leah are bestest friends)wore matching outfits black and white zig-zag shirts and khaki pants and a black beret today I was just staring at her thinking "Wow I wished we lived in France cause then I could kiss her like it was nothing...".Anyways at one point Leah saw Shawn glancing and glanced back at him only her glance was longer and it was right in the eyes too!But also Shawn found out something else that Leah does like a boy in the 7th grade (the grade we are both in)cause Shawns best bud Chris overheard Leah talking to Mary saying that but she wouldnt tell Mary who it was(my hypothisis is she didnt want to tell Mary cause Mary and I hate each other and she didnt want her friend to make fun of her)But Shawn figured out something on his own...Sarah loves him and alot too!At first it was kinda obvious Sarah had a small crush but Shawn thinks its growing bigger due to this fact...In Science class I was sitting in a wood desk and there are also metal desks anyways Sarah sat behind me and said "Hey Shawn didnt you say you hate wooden desks?"Wich Shawn himself can vagly remember saying at the begining of the year.And everytime Shawn turns around Sarah is always trying to find a way to talk to him like "Hey Shawn can you tell me our assignment in this class?"or the desk thing or "Hey Shawn watcha doin?" like ya know that flirty kinda watcha doin?And..I heard from my friend and I believe thisd cause I heard the Shhh part...this conversatino between Mary and Sarah

Mary:I thought you liked someone else...
Sarah:I do...
Mary:Who is it then?
Sarah:Shawn
Mary:How long?
Sarah:Since about last year...
Then ask I came in the room near Chris Mary went Shhh wich is a huge sign.Will Shawn get to talk with Leah?Will he try to use something flirty?Will Sarahs heart be broken?Will Shawns heart be broken?Find out in the next episode of "Shawn Loves Leah"...To be continued...

dude, haha, you are making a crazy story out of this.. If you are likin a girl, do NOT be hesitant with her... I have hesitated and then they just move on because they think that you dont like them.. cant wait for next episode;) lmao

Yup new episode comon everyday at about 5:30 my time!

Listen, are you aware how she feels about you? are you out of her league? Does she seem to like you back?

Hug her hello and goodbye, make them good hugs too ;]

Talk with a friendly tone. Laugh alot too, make fun of the way she said something, be random for no reason, she'll laugh with you ;P

Go to her locker every morning at school, hang out with her. Talk about class and what not. Make friends with her friends. Simple.

Talk to her on aim, then ask her for her number, be liek, "we should txt eachother in class haha" it'll lead to the golden digits <-- lame! lmfao. but u get what i mean.

From txting move up to actually calling her, txt her saying "are you busy?" and then say if you can call.

Dont plan what your gonna say, just go with the flow, something will pop up in ur head.

Ask if shes doing anything tommorrow night or whatever, and if she wants to hang out afterschool friday afternoon, etc. *bring your board, show her some skills. girls dig skater boys like us ;]*

playfully push her, compliment her, smile. =)

move up to being comfortable with her, arm around her, head on her shoulder, "Leah i really like you.. =)"
if she likes you back
she'll say she likes you too
then, theres the gold.
shes yours.
*best if this is in person, and alone someplace*

Overall just

Be confident. Be funny. Flirt. Hang out. Etc.

^this guy is your man for tips.. and dude, yes girls dig us skaters, could agree more.

Well ya see I really really think she does like me back and all but I dont wanna be overconfident and hug her if she doesnt and ya right when am I gonna be able to skate around her do you have any advice that my break the ice that I like her without just coming out and saying it ya know cause I wanna let her know so badly but it sounds bad to just come up and say they I like you.

Well ya see I really really think she does like me back and all but I dont wanna be overconfident and hug her if she doesnt and ya right when am I gonna be able to skate around her do you have any advice that my break the ice that I like her without just coming out and saying it ya know cause I wanna let her know so badly but it sounds bad to just come up and say they I like you.

you really think she does? then why are you so shy? she wont feel uncomfortable.
she'll actually like it =] she wont hesitate to hug you.
just open your arms, and say, "Bye Leah :]"
trust me on this?

You'll be able to skate around her when you guys plan to hang out, something simple, a park or something, and hey, if your not able to, its not a crucial subject matter anyways. you dont really have to skate around her to impress her. just be with her in general. thats good enough ;]


and...did you read what i wrote?
i think she'll get the idea from flirting/talking with her alot.

Ok the huggings to big of a step for me can you move a step lower and tell me how I should let her know?

Have you told anyone (besides us)
that you like her?

Nah why?

Well. if you did, gossip and word gets out, people find out, she finds out.

i suggest you dont though.
let her know urself.
dont take it too fast.
but.. dont take it too slow.

Well what should be my goal for tommorow?

Hug her hello and goodbye, make them good hugs too ;]

Talk with a friendly tone. Laugh alot too, make fun of the way she said something, be random for no reason, she'll laugh with you ;P

Go to her locker every morning at school, hang out with her. Talk about class and what not. Make friends with her friends. Simple.


Overall just

Be confident. Be funny. Flirt. Hang out. Etc.


follow those couple steps i guess.

I could try talking and laughing and maybe standing near her locker but i'd never be able to just hug her.

I dont know what to say man.
just, do it, jeez.

how are you gonna make the first move? i mean come on. Girls always expect guys to make the first move
they are waiting for YOU.
YOU have to do it.

come on man.

I dont see hugging as a move I see it as a way to get embarrassed then killed.

first move - first kiss with her
not a hug

a hug is a really nice way to say hi or goodbye. why embarassed and killed >_<

Ok your loosin me here man I already said I couldnt hug yet now you think I should just walk up and kiss her...oh and the embarrassment followed by death well put it this way its like me tellin you to go up to that really hot girl and just lift her shirt up...

Don't kiss her yet, if you haven't even hugged her, how are you gonna manage a kiss? Talk to her and tell her how you feel, or you can just put your arm around her and if she likes you back she wont mind.

I wasnt saying that!
i was saying if you cant manage a simple hug, how will you manage a kiss?
get me now?

But ohhh shell be with her friends and she might get embarrassed around them and will then mind.All I can do is try to talk to her some I guess and do kind stuff like openin the door and stuff...

Ah I gotcha now man well...holy**** ya got me there dog**** what am I gonna do ill never get her if I keep on like this but its not like I have some other choice or something.

Would this be your first GF?

No...well depends...depends on how you look at it I've asked girls to be my girlfriend but never been on a date nor kissed one or even hugged one...so in its own sorta way this is but then again its not just depends on how you view it why?

Oh.. okay. uhm, how could you ask girls to be your gf, but never HUGGED THEM let alone kiss?

i cant find that imaginable.


well anyways.

cause i can tell, firsts always the hardest, after that you sorta know how to do things.

Ok then...now I'll tell you were I am with Leah and then ask what I should do when I see her in the morning...We talk about10 minutes a day at the end of the day waiting to get picked up by our folks and I say Hi to her in the hall every s often thats all what should I do?

I will go out right now and say that I am 13, and I don't know what the f*ck is going on here. I mean seriously, this did turn into a Soap Opera and I can't take it. Are we your lifeline, here? You are finally going to get this girl to like her, based on our tips and such, and then you will be stuck. One day, I assume we are going to stop giving you tips that should be common sense, and are you just going to sit there without any flash cards to read from?

Everything I have heard here is common sense. I am your age, and I get it. I would see asking how to make the first move, etc, but this is over-doing it. From the way it sounds, it looks like you are doing it your way anyway, so maybe we can let this thing die?

Is it really neccesary to make yourself the drama queen in all of this? Look, you have found yourself the center of attention, what you wanted, and now it is just getting flat out annoying.

I just want to know this: Do you really need us to date this girl for you? Because, in all honesty, thats what we are doing.

I'm starting to get bored.
ZeroNYSkater has got the idea.
Grow some balls and make the first move.

^

i cant say better myself
dont wait and hold it off the whole damn year, and go off to different highschools *ur in 8th grade arent ya?*
DO IT!
jesus.

Besides, whats the worst that can happen?

ok dude seriously do not let her find out from gossip that you liek her because that will complicate things and possibly make her feel akward

so just like when she gets picked up say bye to her and one day just hug her it will totally feel natural, and then maby she can pick up on the fact that your interested in her and decide what to think on her own not just from her friends advice (trust me you dont want to have everybody gossiping about this **** its a real pain in the ass) good luck!

Besides, whats the worst that can happen?

Probably a kick to the nuts for kissing her for "no" reason.

Oh.. okay. uhm, how could you ask girls to be your gf, but never HUGGED THEM let alone kiss?

i cant find that imaginable.


well anyways.

cause i can tell, firsts always the hardest, after that you sorta know how to do things.

Ya, dude, theres this gay thing going on with alot of younger kids.. They have a gf/bf just to say they do, Its not like real, its pretty much the gayest thing out their right now, I mean, there are 3rd graders out there with "gf's". I honestly dont get that. Sometimes the only way they even contact each other is by internet and they never see each other... Lame... I mean sorry to any of you young bucks hear who do such things but seriously, wtf is up with that...

your saying my 6 gf in 2nd grade wernt real waahhh:icon_snif :icon_redf

oh wait haha i do know what your talking about and yes it is super annoying when 5th graders are like "dude i have a gf" and im like "k" and there like "yea i talked to her for like and hour on myspace and now were going "out" so we can be seen together":icon_mad:

Am I the only one that's starting to think that this girl is made up and he just wants attention on the cafe?

Tell her you love the way her hair rolls into a ball so nicely when you pluck it off her sweaters, and the way she squints when stepping out of the school building into the sun. She'll totally love it.


Or just wing it, bro. Don't plan it out. You'll look like a fool.

This is not made up I honestly am asking advice and the whole Sopa Opra thing is just a joke guys chill anyways ill try to do something...maybe ill put my arm around her ill tell you how it goes...

^Just be casual and ''SMOOTH'' about it man :)! Don't make any moves that are awkward and don't by any means do anything halfass...Either today you go for the kill, but if not, then there's always tomorrow :p

By the way, I was the one that brought up the entire ''Soap Opera'' comment first, and it was a funny way of looking at it from a day to day perpective. I think if the guys nervous, or generally confused onto what his next move is next, I don't think it's a problem to ask questions and get comments from the true ''playa's'' of the site :p...I mean, at least he's keeping us up-to-date on whats going on in his life, and didn't make this thread, and let it die the next day and not inform us of whats going on

Thanks Pathtek and when you said go for the kill you ment put my arm around her not ask her out right?

Thanks Pathtek and when you said go for the kill you ment put my arm around her not ask her out right?

Correct good sir! I don't think a date is necessary UNLESS you find out she's going to the movies or mall this weekend, then you just casually say ''cool, maybe i'll see you there'' and leave it at that. Leaving the door open onto whether you actually want to go meet her, or not, but either way, it's not like you ditched her or something''

Pathetek you get up so damn early. Its pathetik... ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. okay im done.

reallly though just ask her if she wants to go to the mall with you this weekend. if you dont do it soon then whatever its just not gonna happen.

This is not made up I honestly am asking advice and the whole Sopa Opra thing is just a joke guys chill anyways ill try to do something...maybe ill put my arm around her ill tell you how it goes...

We honestly don't care how the F*CK it goes. I am with Pedafile, I think this is just a need for attention.

^Just be casual and ''SMOOTH'' about it man :)! Don't make any moves that are awkward and don't by any means do anything halfass...Either today you go for the kill, but if not, then there's always tomorrow :p

By the way, I was the one that brought up the entire ''Soap Opera'' comment first, and it was a funny way of looking at it from a day to day perpective. I think if the guys nervous, or generally confused onto what his next move is next, I don't think it's a problem to ask questions and get comments from the true ''playa's'' of the site :p...I mean, at least he's keeping us up-to-date on whats going on in his life, and didn't make this thread, and let it die the next day and not inform us of whats going on

You are seriously grabbing for rights on your Soap Opera comment? And who honestly cares whats going on in his life? If you really do, then do yourself a favour and get out more. If you need this kind of gossip, then I feel extremely bad for you.

My god, I am so sick of this.

Well the malls great but heres one you probly havnt tried...Laser Quest!Heres why I say that cause see todays Thursday and tommorows Friday so tommorow at school I could ask Leah if shes gonna be at her younger sisters Laser Quest party Saturday wich it just so happens my sisterwill be going and siblings are aloud to come....so tommorws plan is im gonna find her at the end of the day and ask her about her day and listen to her alot and say little myself and make it about her then at some point ill end with "I had a great time talkin to ya we should do this again sometime...oh by the way Leah are you gonna be at your sisters Laser Quest party?"Sounds like a good plan and once I execute it ill be only a step away from her phone number...

Skatephotographer that isnt a very kind thing to say, infact it's a very rude thing to say.If you hate my Soap Opra jokes or hate the fact that I actually inform my capadres (this is the upmost form of my buddies list if your a capadre your very cery cool so you can all pat yourselves on the back lol)about my life then simply dont read or reply to the thread.

Ok so I have to leave today and I ask my best bud to ask Leah if shell be at LaserQuest and guess what he doesnt now I dont know if shell be there I guess ill go anyways to take that chance...I sure hope shes there.

Ok last night was Laser Quest heres how it went.I got there and she wasn't there so I plsyed a game of Laser Quest for the first time of my life and it was one of the most fun things ever.Then I played another game she still wasn't there then she came there was an empty seat next to her and I was like "YES!" and jumped to the seat.I asked her how her night was since she didn't play and all she said "I've been in a WalMart all night..."wich led to a 20 minute conversation that long story short we both found out we are a bit phsyco in the head lol but we had a great time talking she even said said she did and it ended with "I'll see ya Monday!"That means she actually wants to see me Monday!!!Man did I luck out I got to have a good long talk with her and play 2 games of Laser Quest...

Good job Romeo Im proud of you.

try and kiss her next time lol

No lol it isnt like she some slut who says hey first to lick me gets me!

^dude that dosent mean shes a slut it just shows her you like her you dont have to get defensive about it

What do you mean defensve I wasnt bein' mean to Zero!And I cant just kiss her I dont have near that amount of nerve but im tryin to think of somethin' I can do monday since the last time we talked was yesterday for like 20 minutes or so.

ik ik man im just saying you dont have to ack like a girl is a slut just because you kiss her if your the first guy to kiss her like you said and she goes out with you or w/e that dosent make her a slut it just means she likes you too

I know but it is slutish to say hey come lick me baby lol.

haha true so just get to know her more and see what happens if she likes you youll be able to tell or her friends will tell you and then she can be like hey come lick me and then GO GO GO GET SOME haha

Damn...no wonder there's no such thing as a virgin anymore.

You guys are only 13 and 14 years old, stop worrying so much about the "action".

I dont see hugging as a move I see it as a way to get embarrassed then killed.
hugging doesn't mean you like the person shawn, my friends (that are girls) hug me all the time and they don't "love" me and i don't "love" them

Dude i just read the whole thread and yes im bored and it sounds like ur actually getting somewhere! congrats. ima be postin from now on

Thanks the more advice the btter I suppose!

Damn...no wonder there's no such thing as a virgin anymore.

You guys are only 13 and 14 years old, stop worrying so much about the "action".


whats wrong with being 14 almost 15 and worrying about getting some, haha that reminds me last night i went to a club and i got some sweet "action" as you call it fro msome junors at my high school and some other 17 y/o girl i didnt know so yes times have changed my man

whats wrong with being 14 almost 15 and worrying about getting some, haha that reminds me last night i went to a club and i got some sweet "action" as you call it fro msome junors at my high school and some other 17 y/o girl i didnt know so yes times have changed my man
I hope you get The Clap.

oh god thats not cool i already had freshman health man no way do i want it to burn when i pee ughh the pain (of the thought):spank:

I hope you get someone pregnant. Then you'll see what's so wrong with sex at such a young age.

Have fun being a daddy.

Yeah having sex can look like its fun but I have seen it destroy relationships easly,because you have a baby and all Mr.Mom.

^ dude your 13 wtf how do you know

dude your 14 haha your not much older no offense...

14 and like 3/4 oh what now haha no offense taken

im 15 boo ya'll.. lol.. dont have a story forus shawn?

14 and like 3/4 oh what now haha no offense taken

If you count your age and use fractions, you're still young in my mind.

thats a little thing i call sarcasm thank you

but anyway shawn hows it goin?

looks like shawn's gathered an audience here :)

14 and like 3/4 oh what now haha no offense taken

Dude im 15 and 49/365 so take that.

Shawn, mate, you gotta start making moves if you like this girl. Aye, fair play to you for talking to her and ****, but you gotta turn it up a bit. Hug her when you see her, it dosnt mean you love her like, i hug girls all the time its no biggy. But your 13 like man, id leave the whole girlfriend thing off for a bit. Like I got a girlfriend a couple of months ago, and it totally just didnt work out, and it made me realise that for me anyway, i'm just not ready for the commitment of a girlfriend right now. And you're two years younger than me so yeah. Whatever like man, its your life, good luck.

Ok get help haha no but anyways a report well nothin' haha I didnt even have time to say hi I was too busy today...but I shouldnt be tomorow I cant hug her thats way to much your not considering im only 13 years old....and actually im hardly 13 for that mater!

ok if you cant hug a girl theres no way your ready to go out with onw just remember this advice help you always try to be funny and sound all cool around the girl you like soo youll end up not talking to her as much just treat her like a regular girl whos your friend and talk to her and act normal and shell come around

Ok get help haha no but anyways a report well nothin' haha I didnt even have time to say hi I was too busy today...but I shouldnt be tomorow I cant hug her thats way to much your not considering im only 13 years old....and actually im hardly 13 for that mater!
again, i'm 13 and I hug girls all the time, it isn't that much of a big deal, just become friends with her and thats a natural thing, girls are very huggy lol

Just get to know her, find something you have in common, but don't flirt too much.

Thats gross.

:D

Mainly just be yourself, but nicer.. && yes, mean jokes at others expense (as long as they dont hurt anyone) are hilarious.

XBob

thats a girl's opinion which i approve of by experience.. some girls do kno wat they want.. i think we need some more girl's opinions in this thread.. the more the merrier (and the better for shawn ;))

girls dont care if u mess around or are goofy around them i was 2007 class flirts aka man whore and a girl wants to be comfortable with her surroundings offer her a drink, or food and dont try to make any sort of move to fast

Whatever i give up. If your afriad to hug her. I mean come on, shes gonna forget about you.

thats what im sayin your all excited that you said hi in the halls to her just dont be a pussy and hug her goodbye its not a big deal and yes you will probally suck at hugging cause from what ive read you havent done it to much so yea just do it then come back when she knows your interested

thats what im sayin your all excited that you said hi in the halls to her just dont be a pussy and hug her goodbye its not a big deal and yes you will probally suck at hugging cause from what ive read you havent done it to much so yea just do it then come back when she knows your interested
is that even possible?!

^ yes it is ive heard girls say that about guys before and im just warning him so that he knows good luck just do it tomorrrow its not a big deal

is that even possible?!
Haha. I guess the waist and the back position would be good or bad?

12 pages of how to properly hug a girl, say hi, and grin.

Fricken insane. I give up.

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she wants to talk about sex, sex, sex sex lol

ok, not to sound like a **** or anything but, i just read this entire thread and all i have to say is quit being a wimp and just hug her..... you are a year older than me... im 12 and i know what you are feeling, but you just have to overcome that nervousness/fear and just hug her....
its like skating.
if you dont overcome your fear and commit, you will never land anything,
just like if you dont overcome your nervousness(is that a word?) and hug her, you probably wont get anywhere.
so just hug her already. then you will probably realise you got all worked up over nothing... and it will be much easier to do other things from there on(ie. kiss)

hope that helps:)

It does but correct me if im wrong isnt it weird to just grab someone and hug them,lets not forgret im in none of her classes so its not like I see her all the time or somethin' its actually more like I hardly get to see her making it hard for me to get a chance see what im sayin'?

Listen up kiddo. This is how its gonna go down. You are going to talk to her inbetween EVERY.. CLASS.. and you're gonna walk her to class.. even if it means you're tardy. Understand? If you don't do this.. she'll think you're losing interest and move on. A hug is NOT that big of a deal. I get on average at least 15 hugs a day. Hugs ****ing suck and they feel awkward as ****. You're still at the friend point, so there are many different ways she may hug you. She may go with her arms around your chest.. now that is a friend hug and it ****ing sucks. There is no easy way to get around that one. Just go with what feels natural. What you're gonna want to do is try and get first move, and get your arms around her waist so she has to go with her arms around your neck. Accomplish this and come find me once it's done. I'll take you down this long bumpy road step by step. haha!!

Listen up kiddo. This is how its gonna go down. You are going to talk to her inbetween EVERY.. CLASS.. and you're gonna walk her to class.. even if it means you're tardy. Understand? If you don't do this.. she'll think you're losing interest and move on. A hug is NOT that big of a deal. I get on average at least 15 hugs a day.Hugs ****ing suck and they feel awkward as ****. You're still at the friend point, so there are many different ways she may hug you. She may go with her arms around your chest.. now that is a friend hug and it ****ing sucks. There is no easy way to get around that one. Just go with what feels natural. What you're gonna want to do is try and get first move, and get your arms around her waist so she has to go with her arms around your neck. Accomplish this and come find me once it's done. I'll take you down this long bumpy road step by step. haha!!

****, how much do these hugs pay?

A good hug can make a girl all up on you. The payoff can be.. exactly what you want.

OMG, it is so true about people giving BAD hugs...Some people drape over you and others barely touch you (which i'm usually like, COME HERE and squeeze really hard, lol)

Anyway, Shawn man, just ask nicely. ''Hey you, how about a hug for me today?'' Then you know what, that one could turn into another the next day, and before you know it, you could be by the water fountain every morning at 8am hugging away ;)

And those hugs eventually lead into kisses.. but that's a WAY different department. You're gonna have to have some cojones for the first kiss.. you think you got what it takes kid??

Water fountain.. haha! That's nice Pathtek.

And those hugs eventually lead into kisses.. but that's a WAY different department. You're gonna have to have some cojones for the first kiss.. you think you got what it takes kid??

Water fountain.. haha! That's nice Pathtek.

Lol, how come kisses have to come after hugs? :p...Wouldn't you think he should go ahead with the infamous HALLWAY hand holding? I think he should work that in before going in for the main Smooch...